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Is Your Partner Cheating?

February 4, 2019

In sessions, people often want to know if their partners have been faithful, or if their partners have the propensity to cheat. They want more information and clarity, and they know they have blind spots. It can be hard to distinguish the truth from the pain of the past.

First, let's talk about why people cheat:

1. RISK TAKERS - Some cheaters thrive off the rush. They get high from sneaking around. The fear of being caught and the act of risky, sexual behavior is thrill for them. They don't intend to harm, but they have an itch that needs to be scratched.

2. PLANNERS - This type of cheater needs to have another relationship firmly established before they'll leave their current one. This person has already left the relationship emotionally, but they didn't have the strength, confidence, or ability to leave without having somewhere else to go. These individuals don't like to be alone.

3. REVENGE SEEKERS - Something happened to make this person angry, so they chose to cheat with the intention of being found out. They believed this is what their partner deserved. It was done to hurt the other person. These cheaters are cold and don't hide it.

4. NEED AN EXCUSE - This individual wants to get out of a relationship, but can't take the leap. Cheating gives them ammo to leave. It will give their partner the message that it's final--the relationship is over.

If you have been with a cheater, or if you've had a parent or friend who cheated, realize you might feel overly suspicious in your relationships, when in fact, your partner might be extremely loyal. It's easy to be haunted by the memory of betrayal. This calls for deep spiritual work.

Getting into a relationship after you've been cheated on without taking time to heal and process can lead you to sabotage the next relationship with accusations and paranoid thinking. Your partner will take the brunt of what past partners have done. If this is where you're at, you don't have to suffer like this.

You deserve to have loyalty and love, intimacy and unwavering trust. To achieve that you must break through denial and victim mentality, and agree to continual spiritual growth in this area.

I'm here if you need me.

Until next time,


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